（一）成長的寓言：做一棵永遠成長的蘋果樹
一棵蘋果樹，終於結果了。
第一年，它結了10個蘋果，9個被拿走，自己得到1個。
對此，蘋果樹憤憤不平，於是自斷經脈，拒絕成長。
第二年，它結了5個蘋果，4個被拿走，自己得到1個。
「哈哈，去年我得到了10％，今年得到20％！翻了一番。」
這棵蘋果樹心理平衡了。
但是，它還可以這樣：繼續成長。
譬如，第二年，它結了100個果子，
被拿走90個，自己得到10個。
很可能，它被拿走99個，自己得到1個。
但沒關係，它還可以繼續成長，第三年結1000個果子……
其實，得到多少果子不是最重要的。
最重要的是，蘋果樹在成長！
等蘋果樹長成參天大樹的時候，
那些曾阻礙它成長的力量都會成為小問題，
不要太在乎果子，成長是最重要的。
心理點評：
你是不是一個已自斷經脈的打工族？
剛開始工作的時候，你才華橫溢，意氣風發，
相信「天生我才必有用」。
但現實很快敲了你幾個悶棍，
或許，你為單位做了大貢獻沒人重視；
或許，只得到口頭重視但卻得不到實惠；
或許……總之，你覺得就像那棵蘋果樹，
結出的果子自己只享受到了很小一部分，
與你的期望相差甚遠。
於是，你憤怒、你懊惱、你牢騷滿腹……
最終，你決定不再那麼努力，
讓自己的所做去匹配自己的所得。
幾年過去後，你一反省，發現現在的你，
已經沒有剛工作時的激情和才華了。
「老了，成熟了。」我們習慣這樣自嘲。
但實質是，你已停止成長了。
這樣的故事，在我們身邊比比皆是。
之所以犯這種錯誤，是因為我們忘記生命是一個歷程，
是一個整體，我們覺得自己已經成長過了，
現在是到該結果子的時候了。
我們太過於在乎一時的得失，
而忘記了成長才是最重要的。
好在，這不是金庸小說裡的自斷經脈。
我們隨時可以放棄這樣做，繼續走向成長之路。
切記：
如果你是一個打工族，遇到了不懂管理、
野蠻管理或錯誤管理的上司或企業文化，
那麼，提醒自己一下，
千萬不要因為激憤和滿腹牢騷而自斷經脈。
不論遇到什麼事情，
都要做一棵永遠成長的蘋果樹，
因為你的成長永遠比每個月拿多少錢重要。
Story of Grow: To be an apple tree which forever grows
An apple tree finally bear fruits. The first year, it has 10 apples and 9 are taken away. Left one for himself. Because of this, the apple tree very angry and resists to growth. The second year, it has 5 apples, 4 are taken away and one for himself.
“ha, I obtained 10% last year, this year obtains 20%! Doubles of my gain.” This apple tree gain his psychology balance. But it can Continues to grow rather than stop himself. For example, the second year, it has 100 fruits and 90 of them taken away. Left 10 for himself. Worst case 99 will take away and only left one again. But this is not a matter. It may continue to grow and gain 1000 fruits on third year end. Actually is not a matter of obtains how many fruits. The most importantly is apple tree growth! When apple tree able to grow into big tree. Those forces that resist him during the growing process will seem to be a small matter. Don't focus too much on the result but the process.
Psychological review: Are you one of the working force that stop yourself from growing too? You have talent and big dream when the day you start working. Believe that you always will have your own strength. But you start facing the reality as your boss and management can't recognize the effort that you put in. And those people who do less than you drawing the same or higher salary than you. Those people who know how to sweet talk to the boss will always get alot of benefit from him. Soon you start to ask yourself doing so much will make no different to the future. You start to slag and as time go by. You finally realize that you are too old and no passion to move on in your life. But the fact is you stop yourself from growing up. You feel that you have already grown up as these people able to enjoy their life when they can do less than you. Because of the result and give up yourself.
remember: If you are working class and facing wrong management or boss. Please remind yourself don't give up your life because of unreasonable treatment. You have to be an always grow apple tree.
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